Ukuze ndi kholisa emntwini wento ethile, kufuneka siveze uthotho lweempikiswano ezisebenzisa ingqiqo kunye nemvo yohlalutyo lomlamli wethu. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukubhekisa kwiinyani, kubungqina kunye nokuqiqa okunengqiqo ukuze loo mntu aphele evumelana nathi. Imalunga nokuba ne qhinga ukuxambulisana, Ukudibanisa iingxoxo kunye nomnye, kude kube kufikelelwe kwisiphelo, ukwenzela ukuba umntu ongenelayo athathe lo mgaqo.
Ukukhuthaza Kubandakanya ukukhokela umntu ukuba akholelwe okanye acinge into ethile ngokudlala ngeemvakalelo zabo kunye novakalelo. Ke ngoko akukho zingxoxo zisengqiqweni zisetyenzisiweyo, kodwa endaweni yokubhala, Imidlalo yebinzana, kwaye ukuba umntu uyaziwa, izinto zobuqu. Ukuphembelela kubhekisa kwisakhelo senkcubeko kunye nenkqubo yexabiso elifanayo, kuba kuya kufuneka uyiqonde indlela yokucinga yomntu othetha naye.
Kholisa y ku kholisa Bakhonza kwinjongo enye, yokukhokela umntu onxibelelana naye ukuba amkele umbono. Okwahlukileyo ngokusisiseko yindlela yokwenza. Qinisekisa, jikela kwi ukuqiqa isengqiqweni, inzululwazi, kunye nokuqonda ngokubanzi kunokuvumela ukufikelela kwinani elikhulu labathetheli ngeeprofayile ezahlukeneyo. Ngokuchasene noko, ukucenga umntu kufuna ukwazi ubuncinci malunga nomntu okanye indlela yakhe yokucinga, ukuze akwazi ukudlala ngovakalelo lwabo kunye iimvakalelo, ngaphandle kokubhenela ekuqiqiseni.